“Friendship is a single soul dwelling
in two bodies.” – Aristotle
People often confuse between compatibility
and chemistry. Compatibility is about making things and people aligned as per
the expectations to move forward successfully. However, chemistry is something
beyond compatibility that is churned to ensure effectiveness in performance and
longevity in relations. I would like to share
my personal observation in this regard.
I have a friend Tom who has been close
with me for the last thirty years. Our
friendship survived for 30 years and you can imagine the kind of friendship we
enjoy. I attended Tom’s marriage function 20 years ago and subsequently our
friendship grew stronger with the interaction of my wife and children with his
family members. He has two sons and I
also have two sons almost of similar age. I wanted that our friendship should
extend to next generation the way my friendship with Tom grew. Hence, one day I
told my two sons to move closely and make friendship with Tom’s two sons who
are also very good by nature and behavior. My two sons agreed and began moving
in a friendly way. They developed some degree of compatibility and began
gelling well. However, my sons have their own friends and moving with them with
great bonds. I began thinking why my sons could not build great bonds with Tom’s
sons. Later on I realized that choosing friendship is their prerogative and
they can choose as per their comfort and tastes and temperaments. In addition, I felt that friendship cannot be
created when someone advises to develop it. Friendship is a spark that is
created when both mind and heart match with that of others. Friendship is
beyond boarders that is cultivated based on various reasons some are known and
some unknown.
We find some families break up due to
lack of chemistry between wife and husband. At the time of marriage they may
have compatibility and get married and after marriage they may not develop
right chemistry leading to divorces and break-up. Therefore, why do people
choose friends and how they are connected is still a mystery. Therefore, we can
only advise others to make friendship but we cannot force them as friendship is
a sacred relation connecting both mind and heart of different people thus
bringing together. Hence, friendship requires more of chemistry than
compatibility.
Professor M.S.Rao
Founder, MSR Leadership Consultants,
India
Email: profmsr7@gmail.com
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