Tuesday, January 4, 2011

“Love Your Spouse, Else Somebody Will” – Professor M.S.Rao

Now-a-days people don’t find time to care their family members due to workplace pressures. People spend most of their time on professional front neglecting personal and social relations. Most of the people take their family members for granted. However, when you look at from the perspective of family members they crave for constant care and attention and they search for somebody who can care them.

It is rightly said that man cannot live by bread alone. Apart from food, man needs several other things such as cloth, shelter, sex and recreation. When we look at Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy needs, man has certain needs at every level such as physiological, security, social, self-esteem and self-actualization needs. Once the needs at a particular level are accomplished, man looks for next higher level of needs.

People often neglect their family members in the race for their survival and growth resulting into physical and psychological divisions within the family members. Married couples get separated leading to divorces. These days, there is an increased divorce rate. It is human nature to search elsewhere when there are emotional gaps among the people.

Human being has various needs such as physical, emotional, spiritual and mental needs. It is the role of the person to fulfill the needs of his/her spouse. Not caring or paying attention to these needs results into a void in the person. As a corollary, person looks elsewhere to fulfill the needs.

Here are the tips to connect with your spouse emotionally.

• Understand your spouse well and appreciate often. Be specific when you praise your spouse. Don’t exaggerate. Be honest to the core to connect with your spouse emotionally.
• Spend time regularly. Share her/his emotions and feelings. Gauge his/her needs regularly. Spend with your spouse on holidays occasionally. It unwinds you and also builds bond with your family members.
• Don’t create emotional gaps. It is human nature to look elsewhere if the basic needs and desires are not met.
• Life is very short. Make your life memorable. People often have the attitude of searching for stones by leaving gems at home as they often take their family members for granted. Robert Brault said, “Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.”

Rapid growth in technology has changed the socio-economic equations drastically. Although technology is a boon in many aspects, it has become a bane in some aspects especially in creating divisions and differences within the family members. It is unfortunate that people are into the rat race for their materialistic gains and identity. Don’t lose so much for so little. Hence, connect with your spouse and enjoy your precious life meaningfully.

Professor M.S.Rao
Founder and Chief Consultant,
MSR Leadership Consultants, India
Blog: http://profmsr.blogspot.com
Where Knowledge is Wealth
Email: profmsr7@gmail.com

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