Monday, February 9, 2009

Tips for Assertiveness

Assertiveness is the art, ability and the knack of saying ‘No’ without hurting the rights of others. It is an average of aggressiveness and submissiveness. It is one of the core ingredients of soft skills. Below are a few tips for asserting yourself.

Assertiveness Tips:

• State your feeling properly, positively and firmly without hurting others.
• Always empathize with others by being a good listener. Listening to others properly paves the way for better understanding of their view points resulting into assertive communication.
• Be objective, specific and clear in your approach.
• Be cool and composed and never lose your temper. Know the fact that it takes years to build the relations but it takes seconds to break the same.
• Present positive body language to present your viewpoint.
• You can go for sandwich conversation wherein you start positive initially then add your strong points to put across and finally end the conversation with positive so that other person carries the message properly.
• When you dislike the actions of other person, instead saying ‘you did like that’ you may say that ‘I did not like that’. Although the message is same there is feeling of ‘I’ which defuses the problem subtly.
• Always think of the ways and means to assert yourself.
• Keep repeating your points firmly till the message goes strongly to the other person.
• Never say ‘Yes’ to unfair and unreasonable requests.
• Practice assertion skills during the free time through your internal dialogue.
• Do meditation regularly as it helps your thoughts and emotions under control and helps for assertiveness in the long run.
• Take feedback from your trusted friends about your behavior for bringing out desirable changes.
• Never think of win-lose or lose-win but always think of win-win situation.

The above tips will help you to succeed in all walks of life.

1 comment:

Communication Skills said...

Excellent tips. And some are so "common sense". But we do them? There's always the ego coming through that needs to be right. It helps to ask yourself sometimes: do I want to get results or do I want to be right?